Head Covering and a Submissive Attitude

After a week long hiatus from the internet and prior to that a self imposed limitation on blog surfing, I gave myself quite a long time to look around today. (Drafted yesterday) Many "deeper" posts get churned around in my mind but time and my own reserve about touching on some things have often stopped me. I have never done a post on what I believe about ..........

I think through my Sabbath Thoughts my reformed views of doctrine come through. I think my love of family, church and friends is obvious as most of my posts centre on them. I do not feel the need to elaborate on every small detail but I hope my love for my Lord, heart to learn, and my charity to those of differing ideas is also seen.The blogs I have added to my reader are intentionally those I find edifying, often like minded but not necessarily on every point. I am drawn towards women who display a gentle spirit and humility before the Lord, who challenge with their posts rather than "teach" as an authority. It is a fine line between expressing ones views and being a good Titus 2/ Proverbs 31 example and becoming a guru, whose word must be obeyed. My post The Tangled Web expresses my thoughts about the responsibility we have in this area.

Last time I went blog surfing I was appalled by the nastiness I encountered, this time it is something much more subtle which is bothering me. As I said, I read some very beautiful and encouraging sites so it is not a sweeping observation. Today I looked at a number of sites on the head covering issue. ( I am of the cover for public worship variety but have been praying about this and am interested in others thoughts and views.) What I found as a common thread or feeling with most of the places I looked was quite a lot of writing on submission and the connections between the covering and submission, both to God and husbands. I believe both are biblical. Alas, I am very human and struggle to uphold the high standard set there in.

But the tone to me seemed very condescending. Even when speaking of a great "spiritual awakening" one seemed to be glorifying self and several of the women, while claiming submission to husbands, appeared to have very little respect for other God given authority and men in general. Some seemed to be naming their husband as head of their home yet claiming all sorts of superior spiritual insights.

I sincerely hope I have a wrong impression. It is soo hard to really hear someone when you are not talking face to face and do not see their daily walk and relationships. Knowing real life women who are like this colours my opinions. You probably know some too. She crams the hat on for worship, she home schools her many children and all the rest. But she rules her household with an iron rod, hubby defers any decision to her and checks sometimes even for confirmation before announcing the family policy on anything. A covered head does not a meek and gentle spirit make!

I'm sorry, I sound jaded. It is not my wish to sound that way but I really was disturbed by some of the stuff I read. I don't have many readers so may I suggest this to the ones I do have. Let us check that our words reflect our love for Christ and a good attitude toward our husbands, church leaders and other brethren.

I will close on a positive. One honest and humble lady had a number of posts on her journey after being convicted to wear headcovering and how, in submission to her husband she has refrained from that, even while believing it to be right. Such a difficult one for us women, as what is not of faith is sin. Yet I do think her husband's headship is the priority and she will be blessed in her faith to trust his judgement.

BTW my own husband does not believe head covering is commanded and never demanded the girls and I wear them. He does, however, allow me to wear mine as my conscience dictates.

May God grant me much more wisdom in this and every other area!